Are you holding on to that person?
Angela has a black skirt and silky white blouse on. She wears a Parisian black cap, and thick black cat-eye eye-liner. She holds her book at a 90 degree angle, with a rigid arm hugged into her chest. She is playing a role or character.
Are you holding on to that person? Are you your own definition of “normal”for comparison to others?
You have a choice everyday. To accept your clothes and comforts as who you are, or to shed their identity and open your awareness to however you want to behave in the moment. The rigidity of societal identity is not a confines you have to live in. At any moment your heart can go from loud to soft, from dark to artistic, and live in all these spaces. Do not suppress the Cosmos – or worry if they conflict.
You have a choice everyday. To allow the faces you see on the subway – those pursuing their lips, speaking in anger, and looking tired of the world – fall away from you. To leave their negative energy with them, and at any moment, change their mood and destiny-should you feel so inclined – with happiness in your eyes and smile or a few good words.
Are you holding on to that person? The one you decided you’ll be today? Let them go.
Are you your own definition of “normal”for comparison to others? We often hear, “we just don’t click” when you write off that you’ll “just never get along” with that person, and thus they are going to fade into the equivalent of an “extra” or “supporting character” in your life novel.
Did you give this person a chance? Did you sit and listen to their story, without trying to draw similarities to your own or see where you can connect…Did.you.listen?
When we are our definition of normal, we must realize every persons base of normal is the conscious they live in. When someone walks by you, you see a picture frame of what is actually a deep and intricate personal conversation that person is having with themselves.
No matter how frustrating it may be to connect, no matter how odd their actions look from your perspective. To them, they are normal, and you’re a stranger. Both lives equally valuable. Writing someone off is so easy, but to look in their eyes and appreciate them for who the are and where they are that day – that is courage.